My poor husband. I just took the 5 love languages quiz for wives, and apparently I feel love...strongly feel love 4 out of the 5 ways. Physical touch ranked the highest, with words of affirmation, receiving gifts, and quality time all tied for second place, only a few points behind. Apparently, I don't care about acts of service. Now all that is racing through my head is that I must be a very demanding wife. Maybe I took the quiz wrong. I had to have. Seriously 4??
I could have told you from the beginning that physical touch was my number one way. I love holding hands and sitting right beside him on the couch. I'm sure I can be slightly suffocating, but I have tried to learn the signs of when I need to back off and he just needs to sit alone for a while. Luckily, he likes snuggling too...as long as he isn't in uniform or in public, in which case he will usually "escort" me by offering his arm. So my mind/heart is completely appeased with the escort and he doesn't feel like we are grossing out anyone with our "extreme" PDA. Perfect.
Over the past year I have learned several things about myself...one of them being that like getting gifts. Really, I think I purely enjoy opening packages...even the mail. I had to restrain myself from opening James' birthday mail while he was gone at Leader's Forge for 10 days. It was a serious struggle. I also LOVE buying gifts for people, but it is super important for the gift to actually mean something and not just be a random gift...I want it to be important to them. So it usually takes a while for me to find something that satisfies my gift giving desire.
I blame my college roommates and James for the development of receiving gifts as one of my love language. My roommates always left me little notes or flowers, and since James was so far away throughout college his letters and flowers for special days meant the world to me. So this love language is definitely a learned love language and I don't take responsibility for it.
I told James that I feel love 4 out of the 5 ways...He rolled his eyes, chuckled and then he called me a "brat". Believe me, it's endearing. He usually refers to my "bratty-ness"when I am being slightly high maintenance, which lets be honest all girls can be from time to time. So no harassing for the brat comment. So in response to his comment, I made him take the test. He wouldn't let me watch him though... and just as I figured he has ONE love language. Words of affirmation. The next two were acts of service and quality time. I would have figured that quality time would have come much closer to words of affirmation but clearly I was wrong. Now I am trying to figure out more ways that I can use my words to build him up, watch my words so I don't break him down, and find little things that I can do to make his day easier. It is kind of a fun game!
Really this quiz just reminded me that my words have a serious impact on James and people in general. I have been praying recently that I would watch my words and my tone and learn to always speak kindly to James and really all of my friends and acquaintances. So this quiz was a great reminder!
What is your love language?
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